How to Shift Our Perspective About Having It All

Most of us live in a when/then world. When I land my dream job, then I’ll have it all. When I meet my soul mate, then I’ll be happy. But can we have it all? And what does having it all really mean?

Having things is external. That is, looking for happiness and success from the outside world. Needing acceptance and approval from outside of yourself and having material things that are judged by external standards.

What about changing the notion of having it all, to something else; being your all. I believe that if we can be our all, the form of having it all will follow organically. From my perspective, when you are your all, you have it all, already.

I can choose to show up as my healthiest, highest self and most authentic me. I can choose to be my most enlightened conscious self. I can choose love and expansiveness over fear and closed mindedness.

Being your all means, making self-care your number one priority. It means protecting yourself from anything unhealthy so you can better take care of the ones you love. Self-care is not selfish; it’s self-honoring and self loving. And it’s our responsibility.

We can all create our own definition of having it all, and we can all choose what having it all means.

We all have a life story. And we tell it over and over until we identify with that old story and believe that is who we are. But does that story still serve you? If it no longer serves you, you can rewrite your story. Instead of telling our stories from a “this happened to me” perspective, we can change our story to “this happen for me” and because of it, I learned something valuable and now I’m in a better place. Eventually, we can evolve the story to “this happened through me”, because the story has noting to do with who we are now.

There are no wrong choices in life. We need to stop over analyzing every life choice and make a decision. Moving forward is scary, but if we'll get good feedback from the universe and we’ll know if it was a wise choice, or not. If not, we can make another choice and repeat the steps until we get where we need to be, to have the things in life that we want.

We cannot always control what happens in our life but we can choose how we respond. When you look internally for happiness, confidence, and love and show up in the world as your best self, you will be on the path to being your all, and having it all will manifest itself.

Comment below and share your definition of "having it all"!

Here’s a delicious and easy recipe to be your healthiest self so you can be your all!

Raw Strawberry Coconut Yogurt with Granola